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Dating a Club Guy

Posted on 20 December 2003 by Liza Mae V.

I went to Pearl Lounge last night expecting to chill and have fun but the way my day was going I had a feeling it would not end a good one.

I saw Club Guy with another girl that I am assuming that he’s seeing, for the body language exchanged between them told me blatantly what was going on. I was not mad at the fact that he is seeing someone else, I’m upset about him hiding it from me. I don’t like to waste my time with some guy I am dating when he is seeing someone else. That is totally disrespect on my side and hers, unless if she knew about me. Is it that hard to tell me the truth?

Would you rather me see with my own eyes what you were hiding because if so that’s so fucked up. You are too coward to talk to me that you have to do it impersonally? Shows how much our communication was lacking. I don’t even know your last name, but how much can you expect from a Club Guy? You can’t expect much. That is my problem, I can’t expect something from someone whom I don’t even know or whom doesn’t know me. Obviously, the fact that he hid it from me shows how much he knew or cared about me. The thing is, I don’t think he was even trying to hide it from me. He did it right in front of me, fully knowing that I was going to that club. The funny thing is, I knew what was going on with him – his actions changed quickly once we had a conversation about what we were to each other. The answer that I gave him sort of lead him astray which I understand because he’s a typical guy with sex on his mind, thinking that sex is the main focus of a relationship – I was not really down with that. I didn’t say I wouldn’t but him mentioning it to me just ruined his game on me.

Don’t talk about it be about it. There is no compromising sex … it just happens. Damn, I knew more about his game then he did. He might as well ‘Signal da plane’ at me, because the signs were too revealing.

1. I leave a message on his phone and he returns them a few hours to a few days later.
2. He says he’ll call me back the SAME day when he never does.
3. We only went out to a club.

So why does he even keep me around? Am I just on the 2nd’s list, if ONE does not pull through … he’ll call me. I shouldn’t even stay friends with him for he only provides me with Momentary happiness, which is a superficial relationship. Is it even worth my time to put him in his place? I don’t know … maybe when/if he calls I’ll know exactly what to say … for now I am happy to say that I went, because I was confused about things he did … and I questioned them. Now that I have answered those questions … I am happy.

– Liza Mae

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4 Comments For This Post

  1. Anonymous Says:

    what can u do? adorableguy..post

    what can u do , wait around for their call? no . you have to “do you”, maybe they fell like they aready got a grasp on you and dont wanna let go… was it to good that they call from time to time , make plans and dead them after a night with someone else. guys are funny with females , they luv them the most when they cant have them! but if we see that they put up with our sh1t, we dog them cause we know they will be there at the end.

    i kinda treat it like baseball. three strikes and im out! imm looking for the next pitch.
    or i just take it any way i can get it and be happy, if i realy like that person! holla! … adorable guy!

  2. Anonymous Says:

    hey liza love

    hi mamaz.. it’s Gina.. -smh-@this dude.. the mixed signals and games.. dont even put up with that shit. but it seems that ur already aware of what he’s up to. from one woman to another, u desverve way better than a “club nigga”. that’s what i call em. not knockin people who go to clubs, but it’s like.. if he met u at a club, hollerin at u.. who’s say that he’d dead all that once u and him got together? club hopping is a hard habit to kick.. it’s one reason why i had to break up with this one guy that i fell so hard for. cuz i knew what he was up to at the clubs when i wasn’t able to go with him. as far as being friends with him.. ur right once again.. momentary happiness isn’t a true friendship.. u should always be able to count on a TRUE friend, not have to question when/if they’re gonna call u after u call them. u seem like u have a really good head on ur shoulders. much respect and love. .. and i’ll definitely keep up with ur blogs.. and comment as desired/needed. lol

    Love,
    Gina

  3. Anonymous Says:

    stef

    Not being honest about such a stupid thing = not being mature enough to handle the complications that comes with being in any relationships…you should be thinking “offensively ” babe instead of thinkin’ he’s the one using u as second fiddle u should be thinking “do i want this immature little jerk around hoping that he gain some experience and change?”..or ” do I wnat to cut my losses cause i don’t have time for this?”…simple …U control ur life…

  4. Anonymous Says:

    stef

    Not being honest about such a stupid thing = not being mature enough to handle the complications that comes with being in any relationships…you should be thinking “offensively ” babe instead of thinkin’ he’s the one using u as second fiddle u should be thinking “do i want this immature little jerk around hoping that he gain some experience and change?”..or ” do I wnat to cut my losses cause i don’t have time for this?”…simple …U control ur life…

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