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confessions of Liza Mae

Posted on 27 July 2005 by Liza Mae V.

When I am with someone …

I am a person who wears my heart on my sleeve.
I like to share my everything/everyone with them.
I shift most of my attention to that person.
I want to be with them 24/7.

But if a person isn’t built the same way and doesn’t appreciate all these things that you do for them … why do it?

I am tired of asking G to do things with me.
I asked him to go to this concert today, he refused. 
I told him how much it meant to me, he refused. 
I listened to his rationalizations but it didn’t make sense because if I knew how much it meant to the person I am with … I would do it.  I mean we were going to see each other anyways.  So be it at the concert, or just hanging out, what makes a difference?

I know this sounds like a little thing but underlying the whole situation is a bigger issue.  How can I be with someone who doesn’t share similar things with me?  I can not say we don’t have anything in common, but right now it is looking that way.  Call me emotional … because that is what I am right now.

I can’t even recall the last time we went out for dinner or seen a movie.

He said something that make sense though, that he just appreciates hanging out.

But I am outgoing.  I like to experience new things, but I also like hanging out.  I like to mix it up but why does he make me feel bad?  Like I am not appreciative.  I am.  The question is … does he appreciate me?  He should appreciate my invites … my efforts to spend time with him.  I could just invite someone else, but I’d rather be with him.

It is just frustrating when you want to share something with someone when they don’t care. 

My confession … Sometimes I feel alone in this world though I am with someone.  Thats why I’ve been venting to anyone around because I’ve vented to him … and he just doesn’t get it. 

-Liza Mae

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9 Comments For This Post

  1. __viibe Says:

    I’m in such a similar situation right now, I know exactly how you feel. Its hard feelin like this, but keep talking to him about it.

  2. lizamae Says:

    i know i will. Thanks for your concern. =\

    -Liza Mae

  3. chrismsx Says:

    ha I didn’t knwo how alike we were uuntil I read THIS post. I do all of this and more. Ha, right before me and my alst ex parted I went through that same situation. It’s sad. If you ever wana talk get at me. I’ll vent to anyone, so I’ll return the favor eventually haha..

  4. urbantrix Says:

    Maybe its just a comfort stage he’s going through? Has this been going on long? [i feel like doctor phil girl] Cause its been a year now right?..

  5. lizamae Says:

    comfort stage?

    Initially we used to go out and do things but then it dwindled when he started his new job in March.

    And yes it has been a year.

    -Liza Mae

  6. lizamae Says:

    thanks for the lending ear.

  7. katamaren Says:

    im soo feeling what you wrote.
    im in a similar situation as you ..
    at tad more difficult ONLY because its a long distance relationship.

    but really, i hope things work out.
    i don’t wanna tell you its just a phase because i hate that.
    everyone tells me that, and i refuse to believe it because there are so many underlying questions to that, like, how long is it gonna last? or is it gonna be reoccuring? or why is he is that phase?
    you know what im saying?

  8. lizamae Says:

    Well you were listening to my emotions talking. I don’t like doing that but I’ve noticed that I was holding back so much from this LJ because of the fear that he might read what I wrote but who cares … thats how I feel, but I notice that sometimes the wrong things come out. Well we ironed the problem out but of course there are some bumpy edges because after all, people dont’ change over night. The fact that we are both trying to ‘fix’ this problem and understand is the first step.

    Change doesn’t happen over night but it progressively gets better.

    -Liza Mae

  9. _retrological Says:

    you said it all…
    exactly what i’ve been feeling for the past year or so
    he hasn’t taken me out to dinner or any place for over a year..
    how sad some men are not as good as they are with their words

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