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25 Things you should NOT do on a First Date

Posted on 18 July 2011 by Liza Mae V.

The guy you’ve been eyeing on for months has finally done the unthinkable and asks you out on a date, so hours before you get nerves, but you shouldn’t forgot some common things you should NOT do on a first date.  Lately I’ve been around single friends who are dating I find their dating stories merely amusing and shocking at times for some things that are common sense when dating are not so common.  I have reached out to my followers through Twitter and Facebook about things men or women should not do on a date and found some common perspectives about things you should not do on a date.

25 Things you should NOT do on a First date

Please note that this list is not in any order and stories are based on true experiences of my followers.

  1. Do NOT use your phone to text, BBM, or call someone else.  This is the most common advice everyone has suggested.  No one wants to be ignored and you are on a date to get to know someone, how can one do that if you are fidgeting with your phone.
  2. Do NOT overly talk about yourself.  Ask questions and have a two-way conversation for no one want’s a self-centered person.
  3. Do NOT ask too many personal questions.  This is not a job interview so don’t ask about your date’s fears and expectations.  Keep a light-hearted conversation where you can shake off the nerves and get comfortable with each other.
  4. Do NOT go to an overly posh place, that just comes off as you trying to show off. So find a place with a fine medium.
  5. Do NOT get drunk (Max. 2 drinks).  You might need to pay attention to any small valuable details he or she might quiz you on later. For example, she likes Daisies and tulips but not roses.  Also, no one wants to be your babysitter on a date.
  6. Do NOT flirt with another person. Do not check out another girls boobs or ass, this is just disrespectful.
  7. Do NOT be late.  I am not the best advocate of being on time but you shouldn’t be too late for no one likes waiting.
  8. Do NOT order your date’s food. Unless they tell you  to order for them, you don’t know them enough to order for them, plus they may have some allergies you may not know about.
  9. Do NOT expect your date to pay for you.  If they offer to do so then great but be prepared to dish out some cash.
  10. Do NOT lie.  Be yourself and if the person doesn’t like you for who you are then they are not the person for you.
  11. Do NOT talk about the Ex.  You do not want your date to picture you having sex with someone else or dump your baggage on that person, so please leave this conversation when you are more comfortable with each other.
  12. Do NOT take the skeletons out the closet.  This means it is okay to leave out conversations about your past health issues, drug addictions, alcoholism, or black out moments.  It is okay to talk about this later on but for now, leave it out the conversation.
  13. Do NOT insinuate sex.  I am a pretty open person but for the most part if you want something serious you shouldn’t talk about this until a couple of dates in.  It is kind of creepy and you don’t want to signal that this is all you want unless that is all you want.
  14. Do NOT forget your table manners.  Do not pick at your teeth for food, burp, chew with your mouth open, or pick at your dates food without getting permission.
  15. Do NOT go to the movies.  It is hard to get to know someone at the movies for you can not really talk at the movies, so find somewhere you can communicate.
  16. Do NOT talk about marriage.  I was watching Millionaire Matchmaker and the guy immediately proposed to the girl on the first date which is rather appalling, who does that?  You can talk about marriage and that you want to get married in the the future but do not propose on the first date.
  17. Do NOT be a flake.  If you planned to meeting this person, please keep your commitments.  It is hard enough asking someone out on a date wether it is online or inperson, so please do not stand up your date.
  18. Do NOT be a gold digger.  So refrain from asking for a Gucci watch on a date or a trip to Spain.  This person could be your future wife or husband, not your bank account.
  19. Do NOT talk about money.  Wether you are in financial debt or financial set, this is a private matter.  This will cause the person to judge you in a certain way and you want judgements to be left out of the date, especially when it comes to money.
  20. Do NOT criticize your date.  This is negative energy which no one wants to be around, so stay positive and compliment your date, no matter how much you hate the tie he is wearing.  After all, no one likes to be critiqued.
  21. Do NOT talk about religion.   This can lead to heated discussion, so it is fine to talk about what basic religion beliefs but going in too deep about it can ruin the date.  Everyone has their own perspective about it and it can be a touchy subject, so keep it simple.
  22. Do NOT talk about politics.  Similar to religion.
  23. Do NOT talk about your kids.  It is fine to mention you have kids but do not talk in too much detail about them for there is an obvious past involved with your kids.  See #10.
  24. Do NOT be rude to your server.  This is a real turn off for actions speak louder than words.  You had a great date but the signals you give out when you treat your server poorly shows that you are a jerk.
  25. Do NOT be disgusting. So don’t pick your nose or wedgie, talk about bowel movements, blow your nose at the dinner table, or do any Jack Ass movie remakes.  This is just gross and uncomfortable.
First dates are uncomfortable and awkward, so don’t take it too seriously if it doesn’t work out.  I hope you enjoyed the 25 things you should NOT do on a first date.  Have any more advice?  Leave a comment.

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