How to make long distance relationships work

Posted on 10 September 2009 by Liza Mae V.

I stand here today appearing tall and strong, but I have thoughts of tomorrow which are eating my insides for the long distance relationship is too much to bear.  It is like I am outside of myself and I can’t seem to climb back into my shell.  I know that my ego gets my emotions out of whack but I just can not fight it, instead I surrender to it, because that is what I know to do.  I am not much of a fighter especially when I know I am defeated.  So I hang my head high with defeat and accept the reality … that he is leaving on a jet plane tomorrow to live/work half way across the world … only temporarily.

Who would of thought this would happen one month ago?  Things can change in a blink of an eye. It is not his decision, or my decision, but we made this decision together.  I am happy that he will experience new things in a foreign land and that he took an opportunity of a life time.  I am sad though that we will be separated for a moments time.  Though who is not to say I will not be experiencing new things here?  That’s a positive spin on things, FTW!

I don’t know when we will be together again but I hope it will be sooner than later.  I do know that we will see each other by the end of December, the ultimate latest.

// Written on September 9, 2009

Continued thought …

Some advice I found online to make long distance relationships (LDR) work.  Some maybe common sense but still the most effective.

How to make long distance relationships work?

1. Explore Various Lines of Communication when you are in a long distance relationship:
My list communication channels:

  • E-mail
  • Twitter
  • Phone
  • Skype
  • Yahoo Messenger
  • Text Messaging
  • Regular Mail
  • Blog

I think I have enough sources to reach him or vice versa.

2. Pursue Common Interests 

Hrmm … gotta think about that one more but what pops in to mind are … real estate, Learning Mandarin, Two and a Half Men, George Lopez …

3. Talk About Your Future Together

This will motivate each other on continually building the relationship.  As long as there are plans to be with each other again, the relationship will strive.

4. Share Special Moments BIG or small

When you are in a long distance relationship include the person in your daily life – get creative.  Since I am a photographer I will try to capture more snapshots of my day to day visuals.  Also, I will write stories I would normally share if he was here but maybe forget the following day.  I provided him with a journal and my point & shoot camera so he can do the same.  I am all about pictures, videos, and stories behind them.

5. Remember the long distance is temporary.

The long distance relationship will eventually turn in to a short distance relationship with time, and will build your relationship in to something bigger and better than you can imagine.  Some days are rough, just like anything.  It will take work, just like any other relationship.  Just keep your head up and you will be able to pursue the love that you share.  Persistance, perseverance, and positive outlooks is what you need.

References & More Sources

1. WikiHow

2. Advice on Do’s and Don’ts

3. 77 Things to do in a Long Distance Relationship


I found my horoscope today to be interesting.

Gemini’s Horoscope for Thursday, Sep 10th, 2009 — The Moon’s return to your sign can lift your spirits, but also brings a feeling of restlessness. Your moods soar and sink and soar again. Others cannot get a good read on you, for every time they think they know what you’re feeling, you’ve changed again. But don’t worry about being constant for anyone else’s sake now. Just continue to observe your emotions and let them run their course naturally.

Anyways, I will update this post with a picture when I get home. If you were in an LDR and have any advice, please comment.


– Liza Mae

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